I am a wife, mother, daughter, sister and friend. I have many roles in my life, yet the one I strive more than the others to get just right, is mother.
I want to be a positive life coach to my children, but have come to realize, through many failed attempts, that this is not always that simple.
I have had my share of failed craft projects, failed cooking experiments, I have let life lessons go untaught, I have had melt downs and many moments of mom regret. Therefore, I dedicate this blog to the mothers who as hard as they try, may not quite touch on perfect. The mothers who at times, can't wait until bedtime or wish they could hit a 'restart' button.
It's time to start celebrating our successes and learning from our struggles. After all, if we can't be perfect we can be perfectly, imperfect.
Lori
Scout the mouse sends the Gumboot kids through a series of scavenger hunts to identify clues in nature. The children become mindful of their environment as they search for the clues. The show encourages children to get outside!! And to explore nature, to be mindful of their environment, and to slow down and notice the sights, sounds and textures in nature. Each episode introduces a mindful pause with a guided mindful exercise, whether it is to observe, listen, taste, feel, and touch or to be mindful of their friends; the children learn to take a moment to truly become aware of their surroundings.
Created by Eric Hogan and Tara Hungerford, Scout & the Gumboot Kids is a refreshing change in children’s programming. Each episode is a short 5 minutes of lovely mindfulness.
The average person takes about 15 breaths a minute. Breathing is something we do with little thought. However, when we are feeling angry, anxious or frightened our breathing quickens and oxygen moves from our brains and is sent to our limbs in a Fight, Flee or Freeze response. The part of our brain responsible for this is called the amygdala and its primary purpose is to keep us safe, but it can sometimes think we are in danger when we really aren’t. When we are in a Fight, Flee or Freeze response and less oxygen is reaching our brains, we often fail to think clearly. This is when we have to get more oxygen back to our brains and we can do this by paying attention to our breathing.
I remember being told to breathe when I became anxious prior to exams; but breathing in and out often left me feeling more anxious and often in a state of panic. The advice to breathe slowly was sound but what I failed to know was that there was an art to slowing my breath.
Square breathing was introduced to me by an elementary school teacher and it has become so beneficial to not only me but also my children when trying to calm ourselves. The best part of square breathing is that it is really very simple to perform.
With your finger, trace a square in the air. Each line of the square should take four slow counts.
Now breathe in for the first line of the square, as you are breathing slowly count …1,2,3,4
Hold your breath for four counts as you trace the second line … 1,2,3,4
Exhale for four counts while still tracing the square … 1,2,3,4
And hold for four counts as you trace the last line … 1,2,3,4
Continue inhaling, holding, exhaling and holding for 2 minutes. Check in with yourself, how are you feeling? Like anything new, learning ‘calming breath’ takes practice. Be patient with the process and with yourself. Practice throughout your day and as you improve you will likely be able to increase the hold count for a longer stretch.
Our lives have become so busy; Busy running the kids to and from activities, busy with errands, busy with work and busy with so many other items on the ‘to-do’ list. This busyness has become a badge of honor for us. Ask anyone how they are and the answer is generally ‘I am just so busy’ followed by a list of all the committees and projects and kids activities they are involved in. Busyness in North America has become the cultural norm, but why is that? Are we trying to keep up in order to feel valued and worthy? Are we afraid to say ‘no’ for fear of disapproval?
It can be a stressful world and when we continue to put ‘others’ needs ahead of our own we become greatly unbalanced. I would suggest that learning to say ‘no’ is an important step in reclaiming our lives but this takes practice and some soul-searching. Moving from a life that is not dependent on people pleasing and the approval of our peers, towards a life free of un-fulfilling commitments takes time, but reclaiming a balanced life is definitely worth it.
Every decision and goal we make starts with one small action and for today that small action is to do something for ‘you’. It is a small request and the exercise is very simple. Breathe!
Today I’d like you to close your eyes for 2 minutes, place your hands on your upper abdomen and breathe. Breathe into your abdomen filling it up and releasing the breath. Notice the motion of your hands as your abdomen expands and relaxes. If your mind wanders, acknowledge the thought and let it go. Bring your attention back to your hands, expanding and releasing.
Try this practice throughout the day, be patient and gentle with yourself, change takes time.
For help with the breathing exercise follow with the link below.
The Delta Lodge at Kananaskis is a wonderful winter wonderland set in the Rocky Mountains of Alberta just 1.5 hours from Calgary. It’s a perfect family getaway location as the hotel offers spacious rooms, an assortment of onsite activities and skiing just a short drive away.
The hotel offers a wide variety of onsite winter activities during the Festival of Christmas and New Years. Families of all ages will never be bored as activities range from elf tuck-in service and letters to Santa to teen movie night and snowshoeing through the beautiful Rocky Mountains. To top it off the lodge offers a spectacular fireworks show to bring in the New Year.
Various dining options are available to families. These range from Italian food at Grappa to pub fare at The Bighorn Lounge to a grand buffet in The Fireweed Grill.
The main lodge rooms are somewhat dated and tired yet spacious for families and clean. Also, this is a “pet friendly” resort. For a nominal fee pets can accompany their families on this getaway. Pets are allowed in almost every room in the lodge. If allergies are a concern specify this at the time of booking and the lodge will ensure an anti allergen room and anti allergen bedding.
Time to talk about amenities! The lodge offers a variety of amenities which include a large but busy pool, hot tub, sauna, and steam room. Relax in the onsite Summit Spa with a variety of services which includes massages, manicures, and pedicures.
There are also many offsite activities. Take time to enjoy the world famous Nakiska Ski Resort, The Snowy Owl Sled Dog Tours or a scenic helicopter tour.
Other features of the winter holiday festival include:
Troll Falls Hike
Christmas Family Portraits
Reindeer Games
Sleigh Rides
Mrs. Claus Bedtime Stories
Outdoor Games
Children’s Creative Center
Tobogganing
Skating Parties
And Many More …
We hope you enjoy your stay, Lori & Ben
If you would like to check out their website, click here.
What is Mindfulness? Mindfulness can be a confusing concept and is widely associated with meditation. Although meditations can be used to support the mindfulness practice the actual art of mindfulness is in the idea of intentionally paying attention in the present moment. The pioneer of mindfulness Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn defined mindfulness as “The awareness that emerges through paying attention on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally to the unfolding of experience moment by moment.”
Consider sensations in the body, those associated with touch, sound, taste, sights, smell and also thoughts and emotional experiences. Now consider purposefully bringing awareness to those sensations, this is mindfulness.
Try a short exercise, close your eyes for 30 seconds and listen very carefully to the sounds around you, if your mind wanders to your to-do list, gently acknowledge your thought and return to listening to the sounds around you. Congratulations, you have just experienced mindfulness in practice.
Through the practice of mindfulness we learn that by intentionally being attentive to experiences in an open and honest manner without any measure of controlling the outcome we begin to understand a way of living that can bring greater joy and happiness.
Mindfulness, as with anything you want to become proficient at, takes practice. So for today, find a place in your home and sit quietly for several minutes. Now listen for sounds, pay close attention to sounds you don’t normally notice and those that are familiar. Once finished make a list of the sounds you heard while mindfully listening.
Bonjour. Aloha. Ciao. This travel page will discuss past and present travel experiences and recommendations. As I explore the world with my family I’ll post on our adventures, the good, the bad, and the ugly. Please enjoy my posts, I hope they inspire you and your family to explore the world.
Namaste, welcome to my page on mindfulness. I was introduced to the concept of mindfulness a few years ago while guiding my children through the anxieties of school. Mindfulness guides you to be aware in the present moment and benefits people of all ages. Join me on a journey through the art of mindfulness.